Why?

Why... is the right business decision sometimes feel like the wrong thing to do?

Why... is there so much disparity between the good times and the bad?

Why... does it often seem that even with the good is the bad? Like if someone asks "how you doin'?" you want to say, "medium"?

Why... are the hard decisions so easily and quickly justifiable, but emotionally trepid?

Why... is sympathy utterly and completely useless?

I heard an interesting idea in a movie recently... and maybe I'll be the only business blog in the world who links to Madea Goes to Jail, but in the movie, Madea talks about people who are with you "for a season" and the people who are meant to be with you "forever". When you recognize that someone is with you for a season, you can logically define the reasons that they were there - maybe it was to strengthen you, to mentor you, possibly through some negative way, press out of you some hidden power or ability that just needed someone to press it out...

The connotation is always that these people are obvious negatives and sure, for Tyler Perry the plot works. But it just ain't always like that. Sometimes, people you like are near you for a season and stuff just happens to cause you to have to part ways. You may very well be the controller of the situation, or just affected by it - but it seems to me to be way more subtle.

And I got to thinking... what is it like for that person? Maybe they invested a large amount of time, money, emotion into the relationship or endeavor, only to recognize that it was "for a season". It just sucks for them, having to deal with the loss, even as it were death in a way; the toughest components of that loss being in emotion and relationship (you can always make more money, but it doesn't heal the heart).

For the sake of cool sounding names, let's call it the Theory of Reciprocating Events. Some negative event drives you to a positive event, which triggers negative events for others, in turn driving them to positive events. (One day, after massive success, I won't dance around the experiences of this story in such a way... but until then, enjoy the music.)

Now, that's seemingly complete idealism, but think on it more and practicality will emerge. Think about Godin's Dip, you can see that a dip I'm going through might be another person's cul de sac, or could likely be their success!